Katie turned 4 the 16th. For the last 5 months she has been reminding us on an almost daily basis that she wanted a purple cake with pink ice cream. Well she got it and as a added bonus she even got Cinderella and the fairy Godmother. To say she loves "her" princesses is putting it mildly. So she was super excited about her cake to say the least. She loves to tell everyone about her purple cake.
Jon is still all boy, He is loving the fact that its been nice outside and they can go play finally. They made mud outside and then decorated their faces. It was hilarious. Wish I could have found my camera, oh well always tomorrow.
For those who are wanting to know how things are going with Grandma, they are going GREAT, she came up for a visit and had the kids for 3 straight days, and then 2 more days during the day while we were at work. I think she will do GREAT with them. They talk to her every night and are excited to talk to her. They still don't know that they will be going to live with her soon. We haven't told them yet because we don't have a definite day yet they will be moving. And we are expecting some major behaviors when they do find out. Those who do know please don't mention anything in front of or in earshot of the kids.
So long story short we don't know when exactly the kids will be moving only that they will be very soon, hopefully before the 1st of April. We'll let you know when we do, its kinda one of those don't call us we'll call you things. Its very difficult for us to try and talk about period, let alone when we have little ears around who do listen and hear every word we say.
Also we have been asked by several people if we are going to continue doing foster care. The answer is we don't know. We do know we are taking a SERIOUS break from it for awhile and if we do get back into it we will start with respite and then go from there.This whole experience has torn us apart emotionally and physically, when we got the kids we were told we would be able to adopt them, that the term trial for their dad was only a technicality, we know that nothing with the department is a guarantee but we were lead to believe it was a done deal , well that's not quite how it worked out. So we don't know if we will continue doing this. We have decided to give the kid thing a break for at least 6 months and then we will revisit it and decide what we want to do if anything. In the mean time we are going to work and have some fun and just enjoy life, starting with sleeping on Saturdays.
So who knows what the future holds for us but we do know it will be an adventure it always is.
1 comment:
Woohoo - neat cake!! :)
Yeah, the foster care system can definitely be a roller coaster ride. For us it was simpler because we weren't going into it to adopt, so there were no expectations to be met. In fact, in each of our cases, we always had the kids longer than originally expected - by several months, which was nice because then a routine can partly be formed. I've been thinking about getting re-certified in WA. We hadn't intended to not foster here, but we delayed because we weren't sure just how long we would stay. It looks like we'll be here for a while yet, so...
Breaks are good. They are necessary for keeping your emotions in check and your sanity in place! Never be afraid to take them - and don't let anyone give you that line about how 'real' parents don't take "breaks" (I don't know of a single foster parent who hasn't heard that one) because the people who have the nerve to say such a thing have never been in the position you're in now and can't possibly recognize the difference. ;)
Hang in there. It really does get better (maybe not less emotional... but easier).
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