Jan 27, 2009
Rejection
Warning long angry blog
Yet again we were rejected as possible parents for a set of 3 siblings 3,2,1. We didn't tell anyone really but he few who did know are checking on here to see what happened. We actually got closer this time we were supposed to have a phone conference with the Social Worker Monday but apparently she found a family Friday that she thought was perfect so she has decided to place with them. I am really not sure what it is exactly we are supposed to be learning from this particular trial, or how it is supposed to be making us better people because all its doing for me is making me angry, and feeling like there is something wrong with me that maybe this is the Lords way of saying I'm not really cut out for the mommy thing. I mean seriously isn't it bad enough we can't have our own kids, but now its lets make this whole process as absolutley difficult as it can possibly be for them. We go through absolute hell just to get our license, then when we finally do get it there are no kids available for placement or the social workers don't want to place with us for whatever reason. When is enough enough? Come on we tried to have kids for almost 10 years, we started this whole Foster adopt thing last April, its now almost Febuary almost a year later and we still don't have any kids. CAN WE PLEASE GET A BREAK!!! I know I totally have a bad attitude about this and that many of you might think thats what the problem is but. I didn't get this attude about it over night this has taken 10 years to get this way. Sorry to vent at ya'll, this whole thing has just been unbelievably hard on us.
On a brighter note there is a position in Spokane with Elder Services for the state that Cale is going to be applying for so maybe he'll get it and we can move back to Spokane soon. Who knows where we will end up. Keep an eye out for 3 bedroom apartments for us for reasonable rent like 600-700 rent.
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Wow - I'm sorry this has been so hard for you!
Do you think that they didn't want to send you these most recent three because they were worried that three kids - all toddlers and babies - would be too much for a first time foster placement?
I have a friend who has the oppossite problem. She was brand new to the foster/adopt program and almost immediately had a child placed with her that had more than the common amount of emotional issues. It was really, really hard on everyone.
Maybe God has just the right kids in mind for you and doesn't want you to be in a position to have to turn them down because your home is filled with the wrong kids.
You all are in our thoughts and prayers. Hang in there.
Oh guys! I feel so bad things aren't going well for you! I understand your anger and losing it after so many months being patient and trying by all means to get the babies! Don't be too hard on yourself! You know that there are lots of "parents" out there that for some weird reason God only knows have kids and shouldn't. Who knows what God has in store for you and what the point of all this is, it just sucks when we're in this life and we can't see the larger picture and know what He's planned for us. We'll be praying for you, so all this is easier on you.
Bah! Sharon, that stinks! I'm so sorry things didn't work out! :(
Thanks guys!! Its nice to know that people care about us.
No Eve, the fact that we didn't get them placed with us didn't have anything to do with it being 3 little ones and it being our first placement. The social Worker just found a family she thought was Fabulous. So thats where she placed. Would have been nice if she had at least talked to us but oh well not much we can do about it.
Thanks again guys. You are awesome!!!
I can't imagine more fabulous than you. I am so sorry.
Hmmm... it's too bad you can't come on down here to our little piece of Oregon. Sadly, in our area, there are too many children in the system and not not nearly enough foster families to place them in (sigh). We need more loving homes! Y'all would be welcomed with open arms, hugs and kisses!
I agree with Tranquility and Ryan and Paula. I don't know the reason and can't say I know how you feel but I'm POSITIVE there is a plan that you can't see. Maybe the kids aren't in the system yet, maybe it's because you are moving to Spokane and they are waiting there, maybe they aren't legally free yet, or don't take offense but maybe you guys still need to learn something. Again don't take offense but just ideas. There are a lot of things in this life that are unexplainable, bad and good, but we will know all the reasons someday. Patience may be hard but don't let it get to you, don't let it change how you look at things. Good Luck!!
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